We Are All Human

Dear Readers,
On Our Walk!
This last week I have been fighting a cold, and one thing I know about myself is, when I get sick, my depression can creep back in. As I understand it, this is not uncommon. The good news is, I am aware of it now, and know that I have to work a little harder to not isolate myself, or get angry at myself for not being able to do my normal routine. 

Feeling a bit better, I went to yoga, but still felt off. 
The whole time I was practicing, I kept repeating these lines:

I am Wendy.
I am strong.
I am loved.
I am present.
Sending love to all those who are sick.

For some reason, that gave me the strength to get through not only my practice, but the day as well.

An acquaintance of mine confided that his wife has breast cancer. She has been struggling and is confined to the house. It came up as we were talking about addiction. I would have never known. He seems up and happy all the time. Once again, I am reminded of the pain we all carry being human. 

The lesson I often have to remind myself, is from Dr. Kristin Neff:


Common humanity vs. Isolation

Frustration at not having things exactly as we want is often accompanied by an irrational but pervasive sense of isolation – as if “I” were the only person suffering or making mistakes.  All humans suffer, however. The very definition of being “human” means that one is mortal, vulnerable and imperfect.  Therefore, self-compassion involves recognizing that suffering and personal inadequacy is part of the shared human experience – something that we all go through rather than being something that happens to “me” alone.

In yoga, most of my intentions and prayers go to people who are struggling with addiction, or people who are sick. I send it out to the people of the world.

If you are struggling with drinking, or other addictions today, or if you are very sick, please know you are not alone. It often feels like it, I know. Place you hand on your heart and know you are loved, and reach out to hold my hand.

With Joy and Peace,
On Day 1220, or 40 months and 2 days,
Wendy




Comments

  1. Dear, dear Wendy,
    You are a beautiful woman, you are strong. You have been through so much and yet when looking at your photo's and reading your texts, your beauty and grace, your fun give me visions of a butterfly in a summer meadow.
    Sometimes all that the world brings in good is not enough to sustain a person in the outside world - that happens. We are human. And because we are human, we can go back to our cocoon and stay there for as long as we need. To rest, to feel a little sorry for ourselves when we need to be feeling a little sorry. To rest till you feel strong enough to come out again. :-) That is ok. That is what houses are made for. To rest until we feel strong again to go into the world. And not to worry, from what i read you yourself very well know the boundaries between resting and wallowing in the dark. :-)
    But no matter what, no matter how dark the day is; you are loved by me and so many, many others. Your joyful and supportive comments light up my life and I have seen so many others respond with joy and gratitude to you. Your presence is a gift.
    Hugs from Holland dear Wendy. <3 <3 <3
    xx, Feeling

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    1. Thank you so much, Feeling! I just love you! You are right, I know the difference between wallowing and resting. Being sober has given me that gift along with so many other gifts! And I am so thankful I have a house to rest in.
      Thank you for being my friend on this journey of ours!!
      xo

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  2. I hope you are feeling better soon Wendy. You are always thinking of others. The world needs more people like you in it.

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    1. Dear PDTG,
      One of my first people to comment on my blog!! I thank you so much! The world really does need a lot more kindness!
      xo

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  3. sending ((hugs)) reaching out to hold your hand:)

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    1. I gladly take it! Thank you so much for this! I feel better already! I hope you are well!
      xo

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  4. That is beautiful. You light up the world. It’s an honour to know you.
    We are all in this together, even if we are physically apart. No one needs to be alone.
    Anne

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    1. I just love you, too Anne! Your words have such strength! I can either be discouraged or I can be hopeful. Today, I choose hope!
      xo

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  5. I loved that and that quote was amazing sure put a new light on poor me huh lol. Nice work my friend!

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    1. Thank you so much, Marc! I love that concept of humanity. It's really true!
      xo

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  6. Thank you so much Wendy for sharing this, for connecting us and making us remember that we are not alone. Hope you are feeling better now. Love Flossie xx

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    1. Flossie! I love hearing from you! I hope you are well! So many people feel alone, and I have too. I think this world really needs a giant hug!
      xo

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  7. Wendy you are an inspiration to so many. Hope you are feeling tip top in no time.

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    1. Thank you so much! I never know who is helped by my words, and it is my ongoing hope that I can light the way for someone, just as so many other bloggers have helped me!
      xo

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  8. I hope you're feeling better soon. It is very easy for the depression to settle in when we aren't well, and I love the mantra you repeated to yourself to feel stronger. I have to remind myself, a lot! that I'm not the only one who suffers, or that I've been in worse situations. Great Post! xx

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    1. Hi Lori! Happy New Year to you! It is something I really do need to remind myself, so I don't fall into "It's all about Wendy," trap!
      xo

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  9. (Holding your hand) Great post, as always. Feel better soon and know I’m one of the many inspired by you.
    Hugs,
    SKD

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  10. Hope the cold is gone now? I reallty like the affirmation and the quote about the common humanity. It is a massive eye opener and helps so much when we realise we are not alone in our feelings, doubts and suffering. xxx

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    1. Theses colds last a while! It helps me be not as judgmental when I understand common humanity!
      xo

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  11. Feeling better I hope. Love reading your posts, they always make me stop and think, but more so, they make me smile! Great advice as always. :-)

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  12. I hope you are feeling better soon! I feel your pain! I have been struggling with a cold and the flu myself.

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    1. It has lasted about 3 weeks, but finally feeling pretty good. I'll take that!
      I think the whole upper hemisphere is sick!
      xo

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  13. That's beautiful Wendy. I hope you feel much better asap xx

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